Marriage Enrichment – New Couples Questions
Posted: April 2nd, 2013
April Couples Questions
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:24-25 (NIV)
“Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Matthew 19:4-6 (NLT)
“As the Scriptures say, ‘A man leaves his father and mother to get married, and he becomes like one person with his wife.’” Ephesians 5:31 (CEV)
Perhaps the most mysterious aspect of the marriage relationship is the process of a man and woman “becoming one.” This phenomenon has been referred to as the “leaving and cleaving” of marriage. In Ephesians 5:22-33, the Apostle Paul uses the marriage relationship to help explain the intimacy that exists between Christ and the church… and vice versa. And as he states in verse 32, “this is a great mystery!”
“Becoming one” in marriage means saying “YES!” to a life-long commitment to your spouse, and saying“NO!” to every other current or potential candidate… not just physically, but emotionally. Fidelity and devotion nurture fidelity and devotion!
A husband and wife are “knit together” as they share in all the experiences of life. The marriage relationship is primary in both principle and practice. It takes priority over all other earthly relationships! That’s true with regard to parents, siblings, children and friends.
As a man and woman become each other’s closest companion – built on a deep commitment to the Lordship of Jesus Christ – they truly begin to experience the blessings of this biblical truth.
- How did your marriage affect your relationship with your parents?
- Which of your parents’ traditions have you adopted into your own family? What are some things you have decided to do differently?
- What are some ways you have managed to stay “separate, but connected” with the families you each grew up in?
- What limits or boundaries have you had to set with your separate families?
- What are some other people and things you have had to say “NO!” to in order to say “YES!” to your spouse?
- How has making those decisions benefited your marriage?
Each month we will offer questions for couples to use in having healthy, spiritual conversations with each other. We encourage you to set aside some time – at least once a month – to discuss these questions in a friendly, supportive way. View the archived questions.