Marriage Enrichment – New Couples Questions
Posted: November 5th, 2014
December Couples Questions
“Great is the LORD! He is most worthy of praise! No one can measure his greatness. Let each generation tell its children of your mighty acts; let them proclaim your power. I will meditate on your majestic, glorious splendor and your wonderful miracles. Your awe-inspiring deeds will be on every tongue; I will proclaim your greatness. Everyone will share the story of your wonderful goodness; they will sing with joy about your righteousness.” Psalm 145:3-7 (NLT)
“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 (NLT)
“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable.
Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” Romans 12:10-18 (NLT)
“The Holidays” offer lots of opportunities for both celebration and frustration. The joy of the season can be undermined by the pressure and expense of gift-giving, decorating and travel. The movie “Christmas Vacation” offers a humorous perspective on what can happen when families collide in a jumble of fruits and nuts! Where do you spend Christmas day when your parents live in different cities? Whose turn is it this year? Where did you go for Thanksgiving?
When I perform a wedding ceremony, I usually remind the bride and groom (as well as everyone else who shows up) that marriage isn’t just about a love relationship between a couple… it’s a blending of families and traditions. One of the opportunities and responsibilities for each family is developing their own holiday traditions. Consciously or unconsciously, the two of you are establishing your own set of rituals and expectations.
• What did your family do to make Christmas “special” when you were growing up?
• What are some of your favorite holiday traditions?
• How do you decide where you will spend the holidays?
• Which of the following statements best reflects your attitude about the holidays? It’s important to decorate and make everything look festive. Close family and friends expect to receive a gift at Christmas. Why does everyone make such a big deal about this? The holidays are a great time to relax, eat and watch sports! Being with the family is the best part about Christmas. I usually feel closer to God and grow in my faith this time of year.
• Do you like surprises or do you prefer to offer input on the gifts you receive?
• What tends to stress you out at Christmas?
• What new traditions are you establishing for your family?
Each month we will offer questions for couples to use in having healthy, spiritual conversations with each other. We encourage you to set aside some time – at least once a month – to discuss these questions in a friendly, supportive way. View the archived questions.