Preparing for Baby
Nanette Johnson, Minister to Preschool
First Baptist Church, Arlington, Texas
Congratulations on the exciting stage of life you’ve entered. Whether you’ve recently had a new baby or counting down to your due date, you’ve likely noticed that parenthood is an entirely different world. In the midst of all the joy and anticipation comes a whole new level of stretching and character development. You may be wondering if life will ever be the same. In many ways it won’t. So, become intentional about this season by preparing yourself to take three important steps for the transition to parenthood.
STEP ONE: Buckle up
As new parents, you’ve strapped yourself into a roller coaster of adventure—with highs you could have never imagined and lows that can push you to discover abilities and courage you didn’t know you had. Along with God’s blessing of children comes His calling for you to lay your life down for your child (Philippians 2:3-11). Things you once took for granted—like sleep, eating a warm meal or a spontaneous get-away with your spouse—are now things you will often sacrifice. While your friends without children sleep in on Saturday morning or hang out at the local Starbucks, you will be taking on what one sociologist called the “bone-wearying” work of a parent.
STEP TWO: Give Up
When you give sacrificially as parents you probably won’t get the same kudos you’d get in the workplace, or even the same recognition you would have given each other for similar efforts before the kids arrived. You’re moving into a time of life where such sacrificial giving is just something you have to do often and without expecting much fanfare. But it’s in this aspect of your new mission — losing your life — that you find your life (Matthew 16:24-25). It’s here that you develop “servant muscles” through the ongoing exercise of selfless giving. You’ll also find that parenting is an arena for Christian discipleship with a “dailyness” and intensity like none other.
STEP THREE: Team Up
A couple entering into the journey of parenthood usually discover a sense of purpose and shared accomplishment that can push their relationship into greater joy. But they can simultaneously drive each other crazy. Adjusting to less sleep, sex, money and time for each other can be a blow to marital satisfaction. Worse still, couples that need each other the most often find themselves taking their frustration out on the only other adult in the house. Your marriage can survive this adjustment and you can experience the joy of parenting if you choose to be a team. Respectful communication is key to the team called “family”. And – you must choose to lay your lives down for each other (Ephesians 5:22-33) and give each other an extra measure of love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) with grace. And God is able to make every grace overflow to you, so that in every way, always having everything you need, you may excel in every good work. (2 Corinthians 9:8)
GOING FURTHER – Resources
Your Marriage Can Survive a Newborn (by psychologist Glenn Williams and occupational therapist Natalie Williams)
Helps couples thrive during the stress and strain of having a newborn. With chapters about anxiety, expectations, money, sex and fun, the Williams’ speak from their own experience of having three children, as well as from the stories of other overextended parents, to show couples how to nurture their relationship even as they nurture their new baby.
GOING FURTHER – Church Support
New Parent Ministry information at First Baptist.
New Parent Seminar – September 28, 2014
This seminar is designed to deepen the experience of the Parent/Child Dedication. We address practical helps for raising a family with Christian values, what it means to be a part of a church family, and how to truly be committed to following The Jesus Way. Please register by emailing Becky Dossey.
Parent/Child Dedication – October 19, 2014
Beginning a family is a significant milestone. One that needs focus, prayer and support. Our church family recognizes this need and prayerfully commits to walk along side of your family. You are invited to participate in this special service once the New Parent Seminar has been completed. Dedication Services are conducted three times per year: October, February and May.